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18 things to do before I turn 18 | Revisited

A few months ago, I did a blog post called "18 things to do before I turn 18" where I spoke about things that I either wanted to do, go to, or overcome by the time I turn 18. I turn 18 on Saturday, so I thought it would be fun to go back and see which of those 18 things I have actually accomplished. 

- Have a social media detox (I did do this for a few days. Didn't notice much of a change. Was kind of frustrating if anything as I still had to use it for work.)
- Do some sort of fun run (Run, me? What was I thinking? I've done a few walks but I haven't done a fun run in a while...)
- Get over it (I would say, I am semi over it.)
- Save money for summer (I have done this actually, and I have saved a substantial amount so I am very proud!)
- Learn how to do laundry properly. I always forget how to use the washing machine. (I did it guys! I did it!)
- Re connect with people from my past (I have done this also. Sometimes it backfired. Other times it was the opposite.
- Go to a theme park (Not yet, but I am planning to do so soon!)
- Read a fricking book (Nope...)
- Go to Lucky Fox in Sheffield, I've been dying to try that place for ages (I haven't! I have actually gone Veggie so that may be harder now.)
- Get fit (Yeah, no)
- Do a few more "blogger" shoots with my friends (I haven't had chance sadly, but hopefully soon!)
- Have my nails done professionally (never had them done before!!) (I DID! Just. And I love them!)
- Cook a really good meal for my family (I have cooked here and there but not to the extent I have wanted to for a while.)
- Achieve 1,000 subscribers on YouTube (I am on 882, so not quite!)
- Achieve 100,000 blog views on my blog (WOOO! I did this! Hell YASSSSS)
- Find my style more (I would say I am deffo on my way there.)
- Watch at least 2 of the Netflix series on my list (Yeah, no. Time issues.)
- Be happy (I would say so.)

I hope you liked seeing what I have actually managed to do! I think setting goals is a great thing to do as they give you something to work towards. Let's see if I can squeeze in any of the outstanding ones before Saturday. 

Bye for now,
Tamzin xxx

Should I go to Sixth Form, College or get an Apprenticeship?

Last year, I did a video all about Alevels vs. Apprenticeships, and I just wanted to share it again in case you hadn't seen it. I also did one all about why I left sixth form, and you can watch them both below.

It's that time of year when people are making this kind of decision, so that is why I thought I would bring it up again.

If you want to chat in more detail about the above topics, drop me a message on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.

Bye for now,
Tamzin xxx

Life Update | What's been happenin'

I felt like it was time for a life update.

Sometimes I forget that I don't share all of my life online, I share what I choose to and I often assume people know what is going on, when really, I never actually shared it. Nothing particularly bad has happened recently, just a few things that I thought were worth mentioning.

I stopped weekend vlogging after Vlogmas. I did a couple of vlogs in January but haven't really picked up my vlogging camera since. If you weren't already aware, I have a YouTube channel, where I post beauty, lifestyle and all of that sort of content. I post minimum once a week, more often than not on a Sunday, and I love it so much. It's my outlet, my space to express myself and all of that other cheesy stuff that people say. You can check it out here - I would really love it if you subscribed.

Stopping weekend vlogging meant I lost the ability to fill you in on my life every week. And I miss that, I really do. I chat through different topics here on my blog, but all they all tend to have a set agenda, not a chatty life based post like this, and that's why I felt like this was severely overdue. Fear not however, I am dusting off my vlogging camera this weekend, to share my overnight trip to Derby which is occurring on Sunday/Monday, so I am sure we can have another catch up then.

The reason I am going to Derby is actually because I have gotten a place at the University. I am so excited for September to roll around now. Fresh starts, gorgeous accommodation and new people. September is also exciting because I managed to bag Arctic Monkeys tickets this morning, giving me something else to look forward too. Fun times! We are going to explore Derby this weekend, me and my mum, to get to know the city which I will shortly call my home.

As I am writing this, it's Friday the 13th. Typically unlucky. I think I've been pretty lucky today so far, bagging AM tickets for their opening night in Manchester. I am typically unlucky however, so fingers crossed nothing bad will happen. Avoiding all the grates today!

It's 15 days until my 18th birthday today too. Oh how time flies. It's crazy to think it's been a whole year since my 17th birthday, let alone 2 since my 16th, 3 since my 15th... You get the drift.

My 17th birthday was a struggle so I am determined to make my 18th birthday one to remember for all the right reasons. It should me memorable regardless - I am officially becoming an adult! I will be for sure vlogging all the celebrations. I am going to Center Parcs, my favourite place in the world, so I know I will have to capture it all. I actually vlogged when I went to Center Parcs back in October, and you can watch that here if you missed it.

Next weekend, so before my birthday, I have a lot planned too. I am going to Leeds with a good friend for a spa night, and then I am going to an another good friend's for afternoon tea too. Feeling very spoiled (and grateful) for sure! I am also feeling very lucky with the people I get to call my friends right now. They may not be the people I ever thought I would be close to, but recently I have been shown who the true ones are, and I couldn't be more thankful for that.

Summer is the next big thing on the agenda and I can't wait to feel the warmth on my skin. Winter has gone on for too long now, and I can't wait for longer days and happier memories. Am I going on holiday you ask? Well, the answer to that is yes, I am going somewhere a little bit different, and a little bit crazy.

If you had asked me a year ago if I would go on a plane, alone, to the other side of the world, I would have literally said, "fuck off." Now, I would say, "yes please".

It's crazy how a little bit of motivation, true friendship, and passion can do for your anxiety. I am overcoming obstacles by myself that I thought were far too complicated for me. I am making plans, and moving mountains. It is a very exciting time. All I can say people, is surround yourself with the right people - it is essential, essentially.

Speaking of which, If you were wondering how my essentially campaign went, it was amazing! We managed to raise enough money to take Amy to her target, which I was super proud of. Thank you so much if you bought a t-shirt.

Another milestone that happened recently was I hit 100,000 views on my blog, thanks to you happy clickers. Thank you so much for reading my posts (or just looking at the pictures, I know that's some of you). It means the world to see people looking at and engaging with my content. Big love!

A change that I have made in my life recently, that I haven't spoken much about, is that I am trying out vegetarianism. Let me say this, I never thought I'd say that. I was a HUGE lover of meat, but one day I kinda went off it and I haven't eaten any for a few weeks now. I started off by not choosing to eat it out and picking alternatives, to now having none at all. I don't know if it is something I will stick to forever, I am not committing myself to it entirely. It gives me anxiety to put so much pressure on myself with things like this, so I am just going to take it as it comes, and if I eat meat again one day, I'm not going to hate myself for it.

I guess that is almost everything I wanted to say. It feels so therapeutic to type it out. I am finishing this blog post off sat in my hotel room in Derby, at 11pm, at the desk and feeling half like I'm some swanky business woman and half like I went a bit hard on the Barcardi cokes and I can't wait to get into bed. Let's hope I am making some sense.

A great way you can get updates from me in real time is by following my two main socials, Instagram and twitter. They are both @tamzinlena.

Imma leave this here, I think I have addressed everything (that I can talk about, I haven't mentioned my secret endeavours that I have coming up or my (non existent) love life.)

Bye for now,
Tamzin xxx

Personalized clothing, yay or nay? | Royal Rose

The internet recently has seen an increase in the amount of personalized clothing bought and worn. 

I ain't complaining. 

I don't care what it is, stick my name on it. From Nutella jars to dressing gowns, if something can be engraved, embossed or embedded, do it. 

I especially think personalized items make amazing gifts, and that's why today I thought I would introduce you to personalized clothing brand, Royal Rose

They make and personalize clothes for youngsters aged 0-13 years, but they are pretty accommodating, so be sure to ask for more details if necessary. 

One of my favourite designs from them is their "little blogger" print. I would totally dress my baby in this.. if I had one.. If you know a blogger with a little one, I would definitely check out this piece from Royal Rose

Here are some of my other favourite pieces:

If you have a birthday or event coming up, Royal Rose have got you covered. Their pieces are affordable yet high quality, and can be found on their Etsy store,  and Instagram. Support Small Business and check them out! You can sign up here to their mailing list to receive offers and product news, you won't want to miss them. 

Do you own anything personalized? 

Bye for now, 
Tamzin xxx

*this post is in partnership with Royal Rose and MWoosh. Links used are affiliate links. 

What makes a successful relationship?

I want to say before I divulge into this post, that a relationship doesn't have to be romantic. A relationship can and does relate to friendships and the relationship you have with family members or even just acquaintances. As soon as you say the word "relationship" to someone, they automatically presume you mean romantic, and that's not always correct. Friendships and relationships with family members/others are equally important and can be analysed in a similar way.

What exactly determines a successful relationship is the question I am asking today.

Does every relationship that you have had have to be successful?

Can a damaging, negative relationship be successful, as it has still taught you something?

What is the end goal? What is the scale of success?

I would say a successful relationship is one that makes you happy in one capacity or another. 

Whether that relationship lasted for 2 minutes or 2 years.

If you think about it, you have a relationship with everyone that comes into your life. Whether it be someone you spoke to on a flight, the guy who works at your corner shop, your auntie or your ex work colleague, you have formed so many relationships in your life time. Some may only last for 2 minutes, and that's it. Others may linger for years and years. But they are all successful, if 1, they brought some sort of happiness, or even 2, if they taught you something. These relationships are fed to us for a reason. That's how I see success anyway.

I always say that I don't believe in coincidences.

I believe in fate.

I believe every occasion, every person and every relationship is put in your life for a reason.

Fake friends are there to teach you that not everyone has your best interest at heart, ex boyfriends are there to teach you what to avoid in your next relationship, best friends are there to show you what genuine kindness is, work pals are there to show you how to laugh about any situation, even on a bad day.

Google defines success as "the accomplishment of an aim or purpose." 

But the archaic definition is "the good or bad outcome of an undertaking."

Does this mean that success can be defined by either a bad or a good outcome, and in fact it is just the result of something? Does that mean that not all successful relationships have to be good ones? 

Could this also show that our attitudes towards success have changed over time? 

To me, it is presented as now, we believe that success is this accomplishment of something that you initially set out to do. Where as back in the day, success was either a good OR a bad outcome. Have we become more caught up on what is actually success, and what is actually just, life? 

So let's go back to that first question, what is a successful relationship?

Is it, A) A relationship that is good at one point but ultimately ends/turns bad 
or B) A relationship that is long standing. 

If we applied the archaic definition, you could go with option A. According to the old definition, whether the outcome is good or bad, it could still be described as successful. 

If we applied the current definition, you could go with option B. According to this definition, success is determined by the accomplishment of an act. But then again, if you think about it, what is that act? 

This is about to get deep, so buckle up. 

Yes, my brain is fried too. 

What is the end goal? What are you accomplishing by being in a relationship? (Just to reiterate, this applies to any kind of relationship) Does the end goal depend on the individual? To me, all the possible options I could think of are quite "in the moment" situations, not something you need to achieve long term. For example, overcoming loneliness or general happiness, these are things that are not necessarily strived towards for a long period of time (as in your whole life), but they are things often brought to you by people. I guess for some people (including myself) happiness can be an end goal, but at what point do you feel as if you have achieved it? And as the old saying goes, happiness comes from within. Or as my mum says, happiness is an inside job, and can't come from others solely. 

Taking this into account, can successful relationships be short? Can you be in several short relationships and they be successful? Or to be in a successful relationship, does it have to be long? But how long? What is the cut off point? Is a successful relationship one that ends on good terms? Or is it one that you have to "get something out of"? Or can it be successful, even if it has a bad outcome? If it taught you or showed you something? 

How would you define a successful relationship? Or how would you just define, "success"? 

I asked a male colleague of mine what the word success meant. Not what it meant to him, simply what it meant. He said, something is successful if you've achieved what you want to.

I think that pretty much sums this up.

By being in a relationship, if you achieve what you want to, then it's successful.

If we're talking about the relationships you have with friends, this may be company for a while. If we're talking romantic relationships, this may be marriage, kids and a long term relationship for some, where as it may be more of a "friends with benefits" situation for others.

I spoke to my mum about this blog post/research last night and she said one thing that stuck out to me.

She explained that in order to have a "successful relationship", the people involved in said relationship, need to share the same vision on what they want from being in each other lives. If we're talking friendship, is it support? Is it company? Is it for work reasons? If we're talking romantic, is it casual? Is it serious? Is it for the long run? If you share the same idea of "success" then it will work, if not, then you will be growing and moving in different directions right? Knowing and managing your expectations will limit disappointments, right? If you know what you are going into, with your eyes wide open, you can't be angry - nor frustrated when someone doesn't see it the same way as you.

My mum also said that she thinks that so many people get divorced/break up/fall out because people don't communicate what they want before investing in a relationship and end up growing apart because of it.

Since starting this blog post, or as I like to call it, "research project", I have noticed how much people talk about and put emphasis on success. I read of a blog post from Inthefrow today (I have been going back and forth on this post for many days) that described success as aiming for something in life, something we really put our heart into. I guess by reading these definitions as such, it has helped me realise what society defines success as and how I analyse people's perceptions internally,

If I really had to define a successful relationship, I would say it's one that...

is mutually beneficial. 

We haven't even touched on mutualism, symbiosis or any of those words that are used to describe something that simply, works both ways. I think a successful relationship is one that both mutually benefits and makes both people happy in some capacity.

If you google "what is a successful relationship" all the results focus on them being "long term". Why is time the definition of success? I was close to someone, both friendship and relationship wise, for many, many years of my life and it's one of my biggest regrets. It was a WASTE of time. It wasn't "successful" (if we apply the societal definition) in the slightest, I only ended up worst of after it.

Or was it successful? It showed me how to love, it showed me laughter, it showed me how to care deeply for someone. It gave me company, a bond that will last a lifetime. It gave me so many things, good and bad, but it did end. So does that mean it was a failure? Just because it ended? Or can something that ends still be classed as a success? It should in my opinion. A lot of the time, things end. It doesn't mean they didn't work for some of their duration. They should still be acknowledged. 

How about we be more positive? Look at thinks in a better light, rather than talking about failures all the time, why don't we talk about things that we have done, and describe them as successes.

I am so worried about contraindicating myself in this, and I am trying not to think that I am too much or I won't say what I want to say. I want to discuss, I want to ramble, even if this doesn't make a whole lot of sense.

Personally, I think time means nothing. I think you can form a bond with someone over a month that it might take 3 years to form with someone else. Honestly, it's the person, not how long you've been around them. I hate the concept of time, and how society puts so much importance on it. Yes, celebrating milestones and achievements is all well and good, but isn't it what happened in that time that is more important? The memories, the care, the love, it's not some sort of race to who's been besties or lovers for the longest. The majority of my bestest relation(friend)ships are the ones that I have formed in the last year. These are the people I feel closest too and have bonded with the most. Time means zilch to me. It's the people that do. 

If you are going to take something away from this essay, remember that you can choose what is successful to you. You can define it. Don't let other people dictate how you should feel and what is successful to you. You can choose what matters. And that's for relationships and everything in between.

Bye for now, 
Tamzin xxx
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