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A cherry pie isn't a failure just because you ate it all

Over a year ago now I wrote a post named " What makes a successful relationship? ". I wrote it because I was curious. I wrote it in defence to an altercation I had. I wrote it because I was looking for validation. The whole post was one big discussion about the definition of success, in relation to well, relationships. And when I say relationships, I mean all kinds, romantic and not. I spoke about how all relationships don't have to be society's definition of successful, to be successful for you. I did a lot of reading when I was writing that post, and I couldn't find a source that said what I was trying to say. And then last month, I read a book. It was called "When we collided". And it said what I have been trying to say, for this past year. "That's the thing they never tell you about love stories: just because one ends, that doesn't mean it failed. A cherry pie isn't a failure just because you ate it all. It's perfect

The mess becomes a map once you know how to use it

“I’m a mess” or "it's a mess" is something I feel like I say and a lot of others say, often .  We toss it around, we call ourselves disastrous and complicated. We are so quick to label situations catastrophic and tricky.  I recently read a quote in the book “Open Road Summer” which totally has inspired this post. “The mess becomes a map once you know how to use it”. It really struck a chord with me. It was used when describing the sky, and the stars that are around our planet, however I feel like it can and does apply to our lives too. The mess that we seemingly have created in the short time we have been on this earth can guide us to make better, well informed choices in the future.  There is a lot of talk at the moment about the butterfly effect, and how every, *seemingly small*, decision we make influences and impacts the next one. If we didn’t make bad decisions (/A MESS) we might not be where we are today and if we didn’t make good decisions we also mi